Most women are nothing like the harpies on the View. Women will discuss feelings in depth, something most men will not do. In a support forum environment, they can have a more sympathetic response because they're more in touch with the feeling side of life. Feminists have a more SJW or pack mentality, but not all women are feminists.
Exactly what I'm saying is that women display a sort of "hive mind" social cohesion that men lack.
My experience differs a bit from yours. I'm thinking of the late 90s era "The View" cast with Barbara Walters, before massive political activism everywhere. I dated a gal back then that just ate up the view and its vibe.
When I think of the way most women who are open to each other socialize, I think of "The View". I suspect that is exactly what the producers of The View were going for. A universal adult female bonding vibe.
Remember the nut case that hounded me about the website last year? She was commisserating with two or more women from the same Facebook group who had decided I was unfair to them (each one of them was screwing me around on projects I did for each one.) She had apparently gathered what she considered a lot of ammo - pejorative gossip against me. I can almost see them in a group chat on Facebook affirming each other's hatred and contempt of me. Of course, most women's kaffe klatches are far more benign than that.
Women therefore can be mean in an extremely focused and OCD singled minded way by weaponizing that natural social cohesion. But, unlike men, lacking any rationality. 90% grievance and feeling - driven at the worst.
Women would be far more effective adversaries in argumentation if they could, on average, hold to logic and use facts as the basis for their argumentation.
But then, they would probably lose the blindly self righteousness driven aspect that characterizes angry group thinking women.
Sorry, I hold to what I said. You probably socialize with women who take a much higher ground and have higher than average intelligence.
I'm talking about the average in society. The dumb assholes from the play-acting freelance copywriter group probably are about average.
I think some men don't like to show their softer side because they think it makes them look weak. It doesn't. Its sad for them that they can't allow themselves to show their emotion. I've known a few men like that, as friends. You would think by what they say, everything is great, except it isn't. I know it, they know it, but they will not talk about it.
You are an exception, Gorn. Unix too. You're both able to talk about your feelings.
Uhhh. It HAS lead directly many times to my being persecuted in discussions, negotiations, etc for being weak.
Culturally, for men, a high level of coarseness and inability to empathize is directly correlated in society with appearance of strength.
That empathy has definitely never, ever worked to my advantage. Ever. I'd be happier today if I was a dumb stupid bastard like most middle aged men.
